Monday, February 16, 2009

bRing it On

So Valentine's day has just passed, and being in a college town, engagements have been popping up everywhere. This sparked up some conversation and debate among many of us, regarding whether or not an engagement ring should have a diamond. My view is that if the girl ,like me, is especially hard on rings, or requests a simple band, it would not be out of place to purchase a ring that goes with her preferences. Many of my other friends, including Luke, think that it goes against common etiquette to not have a diamond in an engagement ring. They also thought that something is to be said for spending a certain amount of money on an engagement ring. Cast your vote in the poll, and comment to let us know what you think! We want your voice to be heard.

9 comments:

Susan said...

Even if she doesn't want one didn't record my vote. I say yes for a diamond. There are lots of nice ways to inset a diamond into a band. Then you have the symbolism and the sentiment. Don't I do a good job of paying attention to those advertisements?

live a colorful life said...

The diamond in my ring is very small, which is exactly what I wanted. Then later I thought, well, maybe Mark will get my a larger diamond for our 10th anniversary, or 15th, or whatever. But by then I was so sentimentally attached to my original ring, I would never change it for something bigger. However, there is also something to be said for custom-designed matching wedding bands.

Anonymous said...

Definitely no. I couldn't get your vote counter to work, and the second question will give you unreliable results because it's confusing. But the core issue is "what is the right thing to do?" and really, there is no right or wrong when it comes to rings and weddings. That's marketing baloney. But there is right or wrong when it comes to love. We spend too much time worrying about right or wrong on external and inconsequential things, and too little time worrying about right or wrong on the internal, meaningful things. If the girl doesn't want a diamond but the guy who loves her gives her one, she should gladly wear it. If the girl loves the guy and he doesn't give her a diamond but she really wants one, she should accept what she gets and quietly hope for something better on her 25th anniversary. by George!

Jamie said...

I have friends with diamond engagement rings, a friend with no engagement ring at all, just a gold wedding band, and a friend with a ruby engagement ring and no wedding band (her grandma's antique wedding ring on the right hand...the two didn't fit together on the same finger). It's all what they wanted. I'm with your dad...the size of the ring, money spent, need for diamond is all marketing. I'm sure there's some women out there with awful big diamonds whose marriage didn't last a year. And women that have loved one man faithfully for over 50 that have a small silver band.

The Isaacs said...

You seriously don't want a diamond?! (Was that too superficial of a question?!) Ahh, the topic of rings... This has been a 12 year-long discussion for us (and it's not done with)! :)
(By the way, is that last comment by your dad? It sure sounds like how he'd talk!)

Neola said...

I remember way back 27 years ago when John and I finally decided to get engaged...I didn't really want a ring..I was a PE major and it got in the way..but it was the thing to do..and it was fun showing people and special ..but now 27 years later and one upgrade later...I would still take bigger:)

Darci said...

In my humble opinion, an engagement ring most definitely doesn't have to include a diamond! The ring should be as unique and the recipient, it can be anything from a plain band to a big 'ol diamond. The commitment to spend your lives together is what really matters!

Tracy said...

Ultimately, it's whatever you prefer. But I will say that when I was first married, it was nice to have a diamond ring on the left hand for when the nerdy or sleezy guys got a bit too forward. Besides, isn't a diamond supposed to be able to withstand it all? Because isn't a diamond "forever?" :)

Jenny said...

I think a nice band with channel set diamonds could be a good compromise.